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Something to Think About

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Rahiim

This is a re-post from my own blog. Reading these two things made me so grateful for so much that I take for granted… easy access to healthy food, being able to go to the store to pick up the school supplies my son needs (even if we complain a bit about how much it all costs, at least it is possible!), having a family that accepts me as a Muslim and is even relatively supportive…

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These two stories brought tears to my eyes this morning. And no, it’s not from the menopause, hee hee. Really, please check them out, and see if they don’t make you think and feel something:

Via SouthernMuslimah: Baby Steps: School Bag Project - Just read the whole thing.

From SunniSisters:

I met a young brother today. He’s been Muslim for a short time. His family gave him the big ol’ boot when he did that — his mixed Jewish/Christian family wants nothing to do with him now. He goes from Muslim home to Muslim home, relying on a network of brotherhood for a place to lay his head. “Are you American?” he asked me. He hasn’t met many American-born Muslims. I don’t know about anyone else, but for me there is something about meeting another Muslim that grew up American. It’s not always that you get along or like one another or anything, but it’s a connection, the same way we see the immigrants connect with one another in the masjid.

Anyway, an example of being in the trenches together is the way that this largely immigrant community where I was has taken this young American dude under their wing. He’s got a job with them, he’s got a place to stay. His arms may be covered in tattoos, and he’s definitely had a bit of a rough go before, but there seems to have been no question about helping him out, no shying away from the guy with flames and skulls on his arms. An example of a community that didn’t just hug him and say “Mabruk” before turning their backs and forgetting about him when he took shahada. His “Muslim family” has stepped up when his blood family hated his beliefs more than they loved him. We should celebrate and encourage this type of brotherhood — the kind that sticks it out in tough times, and isn’t just a pat on the back at ‘Eid. (Note, I’m not going to name the community, so don’t ask.)

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Welcome to New Contributors

Sisters Ammena, Huda, and Samira have joined up to contribute to this blog, mashaAllah.

So, welcome, sisters! We look forward to your additions, inshaAllah. :)

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My Favorite Foods

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Rahiim

Asalaamu alaikum. This is being reposted from Abdur Rahman’s Corner, with permission of course! (Aaminah)

Following on from sister Aaminah’s Grateful to Allah Blog Carnival, here are a few things I am sincerely grateful to God for.  As you will soon notice, given that Ramadan is fast approaching, this particular list consists of all my favourite foods!  Allah!

  • Clean, cold water on a hot day
  • Milk
  • Lassi/Laban: produced in many parts of the world, this is a drink made from milk and yoghurt.  Sometimes with sugar (yum), sometimes with salt (yuck) and often with fruit (double yum)!
  • Olives and olive oil: I truly, madly, deeply love olives and olive oil.  Olives come in all shapes and sizes, and all of them are lovely!
  • Cherries, apples and grapes: these are 3 of my favourite fruits.  We don’t get cherries all of the time and so when we do, they don’t last long!  My children love apples, as do I.  I grew up in London with a small apple tree in the garden.  My in-laws have a huge apple tree in their garden.  Grapes are delicious and the occasion for much humour in our house: both of my daughters enjoy biting them, sucking the juice out of them and passing me the remnants!
  • Mangos: my wife’s family say that Pakistani mangos are the best in the world, ever!  Based on my own experience, I would probably agree (though I’ve not had many from elsewhere).  Mango eating is a delicately crafted ritual in my in-laws home: my wife and mother-in-law sit down, out comes a wickedly sharp knife and before you can say ‘bismillah’, a plate of neatly sliced mango pieces are produced.  I like to eat the skin - though my wife says that it’s disgusting.
  • Humous and taramasalata: I love both and so does my wife.  Fortunately, neither seem to be very popular in Merthyr and so there’s often lots of it in the reduced section of Tescos.
  • Freshly cooked, warm crusty bread: Allah!  What can I say!
  • A traditional sunday roast dinner: a childhood favourite and great on any day of the week!
  • Cawl: a traditional Welsh soup/stew (often made with lamb).  My beloved wife makes a really lovely cawl.
  • Achar Gosht (Pickled Meat, approximately): fiery, spicy and the cause of much chili-induced pain/pleasure
  • My mother-in-law’s chicken curry
  • Porridge
  • Supermalt: a malt-based, alcohol-free drink.  I really do love supermalt (and I can now buy it in Merthyr Tydfil).  Not loved by everyone (and loathed by my wife and sister).  But, hey!  I like it.
  • Coffee: I drink too much coffee, but there’s nothing quite like it.
  • Tea: I love all kinds of tea - although I especially love Earl Grey and Mint Tea.
  • Family barbecues: another much-loved family ritual, also involving much care, effort and attention to detail; my wife’s family tell me that Pakistani barbecues are the best in the world.
  • Eating food (of any kind) with my wife and three children

Sometimes, we spend so much time thinking about other things that we forget to thank God for the simple things - for the food we eat, and the water we drink.  Allah!  I have so much to be grateful for.

Ma’as salama,
Abdur Rahman

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A Few Hadith on Being Thankful to Allah

♦ Mughira b. Shu’ba reported that Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) worshipped so much that his feet were swollen. It was said to him: (Why do you undergo so much hardship despite the fact that) Allah has pardoned for you your earlier and later sins? Thereupon he said: May I not (prove myself) to be a grateful servant (of Allah)?  (Sahih Muslim - Book #039, Hadith #6772)

 

♦ Narrated Al-Mughira: The Prophet used to stand (in the prayer) or pray till both his feet or legs swelled. He was asked why (he offered such an unbearable prayer) and he said, “should I not be a thankful slave.”  (Sahih Bukhari - Book #21, Hadith #230)

 

♦ It is reported on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas that there was (once) a downpour during the life of the Apostle (may peace and blessings be upon him Upon this the Apostle (may peace and blessings be upon him) observed: Some people entered the morning with gratitude and some with ingratitude (to Allah). Those who entered with gratitude said: This is the blessing of Allah, and those who entered with ingratitude said: Such and such asterism was right. It was upon this that the verse was revealed: I swear by the setting of the stars to the end and make your provision that you should disbelieve it.  (Sahih Muslim - Book #001, Hadith #0135)

 

♦ Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “There is a (compulsory) Sadaqa (charity) to be given for every joint of the human body (as a sign of gratitude to Allah) everyday the sun rises. To judge justly between two persons is regarded as Sadaqa, and to help a man concerning his riding animal by helping him to ride it or by lifting his luggage on to it, is also regarded as Sadaqa, and (saying) a good word is also Sadaqa, and every step taken on one’s way to offer the compulsory prayer (in the mosque) is also Sadaqa and to remove a harmful thing from the way is also Sadaqa.”  (Sahih Bukhari - Book #52, Hadith #232)

 

♦ Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “None will enter Paradise but will be shown the place he would have occupied in the (Hell) Fire if he had rejected faith, so that he may be more thankful; and none will enter the (Hell) Fire but will be shown the place he would have occupied in Paradise if he had faith, so that may be a cause of sorrow for him.” (Sahih Bukhari - Book #76, Hadith #573)

 

 

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Ramadan is About Gratitude to Allah

Ramadan is the Islamic month of fasting. One month of fasting. If all we do is not eat, then our only benefit is that we’ll be hungry. There are many secrets to Ramadan. Each time we do this fast, some secrets may be revealed to us.

Fasting is the only worship of Allah done in total secrecy. Only Allah knows. It is said that when you fast, you should rub oil on your beard so others don’t know you’re fasting. We pray openly in front of other people, it is seen. When we give in charity, we give it out. But fasting is a secret between each peson and Allah. And only Allah knows whether you do it or don’t do it. You can stay home and eat three meals a day and tell people you’re fasting. Nobody knows. Allah knows. And you know.

But fasting from food is just a small part of Ramadan. We have to fast from our anger. We have to fast from being greedy, being unkind, being unfriendly. We have to have a fast of speech. Only say things that we really mean. Only hear those things that are necessary for us to hear. Only walk to those places that are necessary to go. No fiviolity. And think that when we don’t eat there are people who, unlike us, cannot eat because there’s no food.

And so we fast, and we take no food or water during the daylight hours. But in late afternoon our mind tells us: “Don’t worry. Take a nap. You’ll wake up in three hours. It will only be thirty more minutes, then you can eat.”

There are people, as in Ethiopia, who have no food. They get down on their knees and follow an ant until that ant goes to its little hill where it has placed a seed, and they take that seed and eat it. We don’t know about hunger. We take a hot shower every morning. There are peole who have never had hot water.

So how do I explore this life? Maybe I take a hot shower. All right, it’s there for me to use. Perhaps just before I step out of the shower, I make it very cold. And in that moment I know that there are people who don’t have hot water. How many times have we given clothing to someone who was cold? A coat to a shivering man? A piece of bread to someone who’s hungry? We don’t stop to reflect that Allah has created everyone. We are not hungry like that man who had to follow an ant to get a seed.

Think, think about how you will make your next Ramadan. And like anything that’s worth something, prepare for it. Let us not think only of ourselves.

It’s difficult. We will get angry. There’s tension. We’re still working at our jobs. In this country it’s required of us to continue doing everything we normally do. No one out there cares if you’re eating or fasting. The boss doesn’t care. He wants the job done. Ramadan is the most wonderful opportunity to see oneself. How short we are with someone else if we’re hungry. Just a little hungry. What’s our temper like? Do we get angry? Can we not get angry? And after we’ve taken that first bit of food during the iftar, break of fast, do we forget the rest of the day? And then do we just have this big feast? That’s not it. We are not talking about having a feast every night.

Allah comes very close to the believers during Ramadan. He gives us the most wonderful opportunity to see who we are and how we are. How we are toward ourselves and how we are toward others. So that we can use this in our daily life.

I suggest that all of us really think about Ramadan. Read the hadith. Talk to people. Get a measure of how we will spend the month of fasting. Then do it, use it as a laboratory.

There is a charity for everything. The charity for the body is fasting. After we’ve gone a whole month not having cigarettes, maybe we don’t have to pick them up again. We like to have adventures, so we do things that obviously endanger our health. The packet says so. We read it every day. Is smoking adventure, defiance, or a wish for oblivion.

InshaAllah, we will think about these things. And that Allah will give us each a good Ramadan. One in which we can learn. And to carry it through, not just to leave it after it’s finished. But to use it as a teacher. And to be appreciative that Allah has given us so much, that we are truly the wealthiest people in the world. The fact that Allah lets us swallow our food - isn’t that a gift? If you could not swallow your food, if you had to throw up and vomit your food, would it make any difference if you vomited into a solid gold bowl? None.

We are extremely wealthy, wealthier than millionaires. Yet we take our riches for granted. As if they are due. So, inshaAllah,  we can be thankful and use these ears to hear the Name of Allah. And these eyes to see the traces of Allah everywhere. And this tongue to say the Name of Allah. And this wonderful mind to remember Allah.

– Shems Friedlander in When You Hear Hoofbeats Think of a Zebra

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Looking for Contributors

Bismillahir Rahamaanir Rahiim

Asalaamu alaikum.

The Grateful to Allah blog is a group effort. We are always looking for more contributors, brothers and sisters who are willing to write an occassional post on gratitude. There is no minimum or maximum you may contribute. If you have your own blog and want to cross-post something you have written there, you are welcome to do so. We also post links to other blog posts, lectures, articles, etc. that are related to expressing gratitude to Allah.

If you would be interested in becoming a contributor to this blog, please email the administrator at niqaabisister@yahoo.com. You will need to provide the email address under which you currently have a WordPress account to be added to this blog. If you do not have a WordPress account, it is easy to set one up at www.wordpress.com.

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Grateful to Allah Blog Carnival - October 11

Something to plan ahead for…

The month of Ramadan is often used as a means of correcting our slackened efforts in this deen. It is a month when extra effort is made towards spiritual goals, with the du’a that we will receive blessings for our good works, and the hope that we will come out of Ramadan ready to incorporate more into our daily spiritual practice the rest of the year.

Many Muslims keep journals throughout Ramadan to track their progress on goals and save for future benefit the feelings, sights, and lessons learned throughout the holy month.

Gratitude is one of the character-improvements that we should see as a fruit of Ramadan. “Depriving” ourselves for the month should make it that much clearer to us how much we take for granted, how much we sometimes normally overeat, overspend, oversocialize, over-talk, etc.

So, this year, the Grateful to Allah blog will host a blog carnival designed to celebrate our gratitude to Allah. This is an opportunity to take the lessons learned, the insights discovered, and the goals intended during Ramadan and express our gratitude for them. It is also an opportunity to share and learn from what each other have experienced throughout the month.

  • This carnival is open to ALL Muslims.
  • After winding down from Ramadan and the Eid festivities, please look over your journals, blog entries, and memories of the month and write a blog post expressing what you are grateful to Allah for.
  • Email the link to your post, along with your name, email address, and the name of your blog to niqaabisister@yahoo.com.
  • Submission deadline will be Wednesday October 8.
  • The carnival will be posted at the Grateful to Allah blog on Saturday October 11, inshaAllah.
  • Please feel free to be creative; express yourself in your own way. Artwork and photographs with explanation of how they relate are welcome. Poetry, journal entries, essays, etc. are all fine.
  • If you do not have your own blog but would like to participate, email your post and it can be hosted at the blog.
  • Older blog posts related to gratitude are also welcome!

Express the many ways you are grateful to Allah!

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Baraka of Rickshaw Diaries Reflects on Gratitude

By Baraka, posted at OtherMatters, a beautiful reflection on gratitude.

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Grateful for Good Company

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Rahiim

Asalaamu alaikum.

This past week, I have talked at great length with three wonderful friends. I don’t use the term “friend” lightly. I know it is common discourse to refer to anyone you spend any time with as a friend, but I am a bit more cautious. My co-workers, while I may like them, are my co-workers. An acquaintence is still just an acquaintence. Even those I consider my brothers and sisters in deen are still not always necessarily “friends”. Afterall, you can love a sibling, know that you’d do anything for them because of your bond, but have to admit you still don’t particularly like each other. Thankfully, I don’t have to say that about my own brother, who really is one of my best friends, LOL, but you must concede that is not always the case with siblings.

To me a friend is someone that I have let in to a certain level of depth within me. They know some of my less desireable traits. Though certainly I am ashamed that they would ever become aware of them, I realize that they accept me flaws and all. More importantly, they call me out when those flaws are taking over, they gently push me towards growth and improvement. They do not lie to me to make me think I am better than I am, and yet they do not shame or mock me for being imperfect. On the other side, I hope that they feel that I provide that same level of support to them, inshaAllah.

To me a friend is the person who calls me to good. The one with whom remembrance of Allah is frequent and natural, the one with whom the Sunnah is understood, and the one who is a reminder of higher character. I am blessed to have five friends like that. FIVE! SubhanAllah, can you even imagine?

Where the age old joke is how lucky we are to have one true friend, I have five, mashaAllah. Five people, who are very different from each other, but who all share one important element: Islam. They don’t all follow the same madhab or the sit in the company of the same shaykh, or even have the opportunity to sit in the company of a shaykh at all. We don’t “hang” together like teenagers who feel safer in numbers. These are blessed, one-to-one friendships for the most part, though their paths may cross and they may know of each other. They are not scholars, nor celebrities, nor anything so “popular” that would bring me prestige by naming them as my friends. They are just humble, everyday Muslims who exemplify brotherhood and sisterhood, naturally, perhaps without even realizing it.

These are five people I have been blessed to know, to learn from, to share my heartbreak, drama, and happiness with. Five people who may not even know how much they impact me. Five people for whom I will say du’as regularly, even should they fade from my life at some point, should we go our own ways, who I will never forget inshaAllah. Five people for whom I am forever grateful to Allah for having allowed to enter my life. Five people who are gifts and deserve to hear that they are loved for the pleasure of Allah.

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Grateful for Relaxation

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Rahiim

Asalaamu alaikum.

I never been able to sleep well, but recently I have disciplined myself more with a set evening routine of ibadat and relaxation. I wrote about it on my own blog. I also have a more disciplined morning routine now because sleeping better at night makes it easier to wake up on time for Fajr in the morning, and get my day started the right way.

I never really thought about how the fard ibadat is timed in such a way that it should make for a well scheduled day and night that allows us just the right amount of sleep and balance. So I am grateful for finding that balance and for, finally, getting a good night’s sleep!

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